All of us and that includes our children can be divided into hedgehogs or rhinos. How do you react to anger? Do you go on the attack and express your feelings aggressively or do you protect yourself by burying your feelings and become introverted? It is helpful to work out how you react to anger but also to know whether your child is a rhino or hedgehog so that you can help them to express their frustrations appropriately and to manage their anger. It is not acceptable to go around kicking furniture and hurling abuse at younger siblings but it is equally unhealthy to skulk in a corner internalising hurt feelings. And our family…? We are a herd of five rhinos and when the rubber hits the road, things can really ‘kick off’ in our household! But Zeb and I recognise this and continually aim to control our own anger and teach the children to do likewise – a task that takes about 18 years. It is also helpful to model how to resolve conflict and for children to see the adults making friends and saying sorry to each other and also to our children if we have got it wrong.
If you want to know more about The Parenting Course, click on this link to read my initial post about the course. Here is a link to the Holy Trinity Brompton website which has a video about the course www.relationshipcentral.org.