My daughter loves gifts! This week I discovered that gifts is her ‘love language’ and I have made an effort to connect with her through this. They weren’t extravagant – but thoughtful gifts such a rose at her table place, a wild apple picked on my walk home and a note in her lunch box. I already feel as if she is responding and that is exciting because she can be contrary and unpredictable at the best of times.
This was Week 4 of The Parenting Course and we continued to study The Five Love Languages which are affirming words, affectionate touch, time, small gifts and actions. Children need time and channels of communication are opened by spending one-to-one time with our children. It is difficult especially when you have more than one child but be deliberate and make time regularly for each child to be alone with you. As parents we are continually doing kind actions for our children which can be taken for granted but it is worth checking our attitude is willing and not allow resentment to creep in. Giving gifts for no reason is difficult because it feels materialistic but I am discovering that just because it is not my primary ‘love language’ doesn’t mean I should ignore it.
If you want to know more about The Parenting Course, click on this link to read my initial post about the course. Here is a link to the Holy Trinity Brompton website which has a video about the course www.relationshipcentral.org.